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Hello, I’m Dr. Poonam Sharma. As a psychologist practicing for over 20 years now, I’m tired of watching strong, capable women like you struggling with one of the most important relationships of your life. At Strong Women, Strong Love, my goal is to share the 5 KEY MOVES you can make to get the love and passion back in your marriage.
I know how incredibly busy you are, so I’m sharing what relationship professionals know about creating the happy marriage your desire. I have been trained by some of the leading marriage experts in the world, like Drs. John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Harville Hendrix. I’ve always been passionate about making the rich information and tools of my profession accessible to anyone interested in improving their marriage. This was the motivation behind writing my award-winning book, Strong Women, Strong Love: The Missing Manual for the Modern Marriage.
I really want you to have a relationship where you feel cherished, appreciated and fully supported by your husband. Let me show you how!
I’m so grateful for nearly 40,000 visits to the Strong Women, Strong Love blog this year, and I hope that you found resources here to nurture and enhance your marriage.
As 2017 winds down, I wanted to look back on some of the most popular marriage advice articles published this year.
How Attachment Styles Affect Your Marriage
This article looks at attachment styles as a framework for understanding your marriage. Your attachment style was shaped by the family you grew up in, and it continues to influence how you approach relationships. For example, if your early caregivers were loving, responsible and reliable, you’re probably comfortable with emotional intimacy and trusting others. But if your caregivers were unavailable or unresponsive, you may have trouble seeking closeness with others. Knowing your attachment style and your husband’s can be an important first step toward improving your marriage.
Here’s a common dynamic I see in marriages: The husband is in the habit of telling fibs – about whether he completed a task his wife asked him to, about what time he’ll be home, stuff like that. He doesn’t see this as a big deal in his marriage.
The wife feels differently. She believes that any kind of lie undermines trust in the relationship.
So what’s going on here? And how can you address this pattern before it becomes a real sticking point in your marriage?read more
The holiday season is here! Are you ready? Our already-long to-do lists get even longer as we add shopping, decorating, cooking, traveling and even burning the midnight oil at the office to prepare for our time off.
Amid this frenzy of activity, self-care is often the first thing to go. As women, we can be so focused on making everything “perfect” for the special people in our lives that we overlook our own needs.
I’d like you to think about this in a different way, though. If you aren’t caring for yourself, you can’t really show up for the people you love. You’re more likely to be tired, stressed and critical. On the other hand, if your own needs are met, you can be fully, joyously present with others. And that’s the best gift you can give them.read more