Relationships are never in neutral mode. Everything that each one of you does in your marriage is either building it up or tearing it down. Every action, every day counts. It's not just what you do on anniversaries or other special occasions that affects the quality of your relationship. It's what happens when you're rushing around in the morning, unwinding at the end of the day or in any of those easy-to-overlook moments that have more meaning than we realize.