STRONG WOMEN, STRONG LOVE helps busy, ambitious women struggling in their marriage get the love and passion back, using a powerful, straightforward approach grounded in relationship science, not fluff and nonsense.
Hello, I’m Dr. Poonam Sharma. As a psychologist practicing for over 20 years now, I’m tired of watching strong, capable women like you struggling with one of the most important relationships of your life. At Strong Women, Strong Love, my goal is to share the most powerful moves you can make to get the love and passion back in your marriage.
I know how incredibly busy you are, so I’m sharing what relationship professionals know about creating the happy marriage your desire. I have been trained by some of the leading marriage experts in the world, like Drs. John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Harville Hendrix. I’ve always been passionate about making the rich information and tools of my profession accessible to anyone interested in improving their marriage. This was the motivation behind writing my award-winning book, Strong Women, Strong Love: The Missing Manual for the Modern Marriage.
I really want you to have a relationship where you feel cherished, appreciated and fully supported by your husband. Let me show you how!
Money problems are a common source of stress for American families. Consider just a few statistics:
38.1 percent of households have credit card debt.
About 46 percent of Americans don’t have enough savings to cover a $400 emergency expense.
One-third of Americans lose sleep over money worries.
Unfortunately, couples with ongoing financial difficulties tend to take their anxiety out on each other. As I wrote in my book Strong Women, Strong Love, research shows that couples under high stress for extended periods magnify the negatives in their relationship and have trouble remembering the positives. They get defensive and anger more quickly at each other’s faults. No matter how well they usually communicate with each other, they have trouble drawing on those relationship skills because they’re overwhelmed
Sometimes, I hear from angry readers who aren’t too happy with me or the messages of this blog. Their words have a common theme:
Why should I do my part to make the marriage better when my husband isn’t doing his? Why are you telling me to be respectful and patient when he doesn’t deserve it?
I get the feeling these readers think I am urging them to be a doormat. But that’s not the case. After all, the name of this blog, and my book, is Strong Women, Strong Love.
The kind of strength I am talking about is broader than the type most revered in our culture.
We tend to celebrate those who are fiercely independent, firm and unstoppable — who take a stand and won’t ever back down. That’s what we usually think of as real strength.
But there’s another kind of strength, too. One that’s more idealized in the East. Think about the willow tree and how it stands strong in the storm because of its tremendous flexibility. Or, the power of water, even as it follows every bend and curve of the river bank.read more
You may have read articles before stating that parents are not as happy as people who don’t have children. Of course, that’s not everyone’s experience with parenthood. But it’s a finding that we tend to explain away with conventional wisdom like “Well, having kids is hard. That’s just what parenting is.”
But that not may be the case.
First, the bad news. According to the latest research on the topic, the happiness gap between parents and nonparents is larger in the U.S. than it is in other developed countries. But here’s the new wrinkle on this topic: Researchers say that it’s possible to close the happiness gap through new policies on work leave and childcare.read more